Where Does My Self Worth Come From?

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Where does my belief about myself come from?

Most of us are familiar with the nature versus nurture debate that delves into whether the behavior of human beings is determined by genes, one’s hereditary makeup, or by environmental variables such as early childhood experiences, relationships with family members and friends, as well as other cultural and societal interactions and exposure. Although both genes and environment play critical roles in our lives, how we are raised coupled with our life experiences most significantly factor into our identity.

Our genes endow us with a predilection to be mathematical or artistic, have blue or brown eyes, however, our experiences carry more weight with respect to how we feel about ourselves. During our early developmental stages, those in our sphere of influence—our parents, grandparents, guardians, siblings, teachers, coaches—anyone with whom we frequently interact, mold our sense of self and whether we feel worthy or inadequate.

No child is responsible for his or her low self worth. We are not born into the world with low or high self worth. Our trust or distrust is developed during our early years and is one of the most important developmental stages. If our needs are not met early in life, we are likely to be distrustful of others. And, as we grow, if we are subjected to verbal, emotional, or physical abuse, our self worth is crippled. Even if you had a positive childhood, negative experiences later in life can impact your self worth.

A person’s self worth develops over time as a result of all of their experiences, positive and negative. How you feel about your innermost self, your soul self, is inordinately important to the quality of your life. Every single aspect of you—your energy, focus, attitude, productivity level, resilience, how well you sleep, your sex life, and your overall physical, emotional, and spiritual health–is impacted by how you feel about yourself. Most people do not realize how profoundly their lives are affected by their internal sense of self, their self worth.

The amazing news is that anyone can change the way they feel about themselves, no matter what they have experienced during the course of their life. In my next blog, I will discuss the incredible power of neuroplasticity, which is your brain’s ability to change at anytime during your life. Neuroplasticity enables you to create new pathways in your brain in order to change your thoughts and behavior over a period of time.

If you have been suffering from low self worth, no matter what the reason, know that you can change. It is never too late to transform your innermost self so that you are able to live with self acceptance, self trust, self love, and inner peace.

I did it. So can you.

Please let me know what you think about this blog. I am eager to hear from you.

Have a joy-filled Friday!

Anne Boudreau