Change the Quality of Your Life by Changing How You Feel About Yourself
You may not realize this remarkable fact: Every aspect of your life is impacted by your belief about who you are as a human being. Every experience, every relationship, your attitude, energy, immune system, sexual drive, sleep patterns, ability to heal after injury, all areas are affected by how you feel about yourself. This is why developing healthy self-worth is pivotal to being able to live the most meaningful life possible.
I have written about the distinction between self-worth and self-esteem, however, it is important to clarify how they differ in terms of their impact on your life. You may not be aware that these terms actually refer to opposite aspects of who we are: Self-worth is the inside you — the value you place on yourself and your life, whereas self-esteem refers to your outward self, your accomplishments and what you do. Of course, these dimensions intersect as they each contribute to your whole “self.” The way you think and behave results in your actions and performance in the world, however, how you feel about your inner core self, what I call your Soul Self, weighs most heavily on the quality of your life.
If you have lived much of your life suffering from low self-worth, it is never too late to change. Anyone can transform how they feel about themselves at any age or stage of life. We now know that our magnificent brain is not hard-wired, but has the capacity to form new patterns of thought and behavior throughout our entire life. Neuroplasticity, also known as brain plasticity, is the term that refers to the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections when we learn new thoughts, skills, and behavior. In fact, engaging our brain in life-long learning has been shown to slow down the aging of our brain as well as mitigate degenerative diseases such as Alzheimer’s, dementia, schizophrenia, while also aiding in the rehabilitation of those who have suffered from stroke, Parkinson’s Disease, and spinal cord injuries. Your brain is powerful and nimble, resilient, and ready to help you do anything you wish.
A mantra I developed for myself many years back: I am the Leader of my Life. I learned long ago that no one can change you but you. Through neuroplasticity you have the power to transform long-entrenched thoughts and habits that have impeded your ability to live with inner calm and equanimity. The only excuse for not living a fulfilling life is lack of desire not lack of ability. If you truly want to change how you feel internally, to squelch that internal tyrant in your brain that is oppressing you from living with joy, follow my lead and begin today. I did it, so can you.
Developing healthy or positive self-worth is the most important mission of your life. Positive self-worth frees you from the anchor of self-doubt, from the inner critic that has berated you, that has distorted your identity. Possessing self-worth enables you to live with unconditional self-compassion and self-acceptance that is not based on your performance or achievements. Instead, it instills an internal source of strength, stamina, and optimism that is unwavering. Especially during challenging times, healthy self-worth provides you the confidence that things will get better, that with time, difficulties will pass. It enables you to recover from loss and heal from wounds.
With positive self-worth, you can transcend your fears and live with trust and assurance that is derived from self-love. You will have a sense of calm that stems from knowing you will be fine, no matter what. Your self-awareness grows exponentially and enables you to be present to your life and to those you love. You will enjoy beautiful relationships with others rooted in authenticity and honesty. Your view of yourself and your life will be profoundly enriched and enlightened.
Be on the lookout for my book that will be released in November that will provide practices to building healthy, positive self-worth. It changed my life, and I know it will change yours.
Choose to live with passion, energy, vitality, and make every single moment matter.
With love, always, Anne